How to Keep Financial Harmony in Your Marriage
By Douglas Goldstein CFP®- helping olim handle their U.S. investments from Israel
What’s the best way to achieve financial harmony in a marriage?
When two people get married, they don’t only join their lives together, but also their money. If differences in money attitudes and practices are not addressed early on, people can become set in their ways, making it more difficult to overcome any disagreements. However, where there is love, there are also ways to heal the financial divide.
Find shared values and purpose
Couples need to come together with a shared vision of their future based on joint values. If they share a mission and purpose, their decisions will have greater clarity and conviction and it should be easier to maintain financial harmony. Shared goals can provide the motivation to spend/save according to an agreed-upon plan.
Create a plan
At the core of any successful enterprise – be it a business or marriage – is a spending plan or budget. With shared goals and purpose, couples can better prioritize their spending and find it easier to agree on financial decisions. Budgets should be created as a couple and tracked together monthly.
Keep separate finances
When finances are merged, it can sometimes lead to a struggle for control. Make sure that money doesn’t become a power issue. While both partners don’t need to balance the checkbook or pay the bills, everyone needs to be happy with the division of labor.
Making joint spending/saving decisions is important. However, not every financial decision needs to be approved by your spouse. Allowing some individual control over a personal spending budget can go a long way to relieving the stress of having to account for every shekel spent as a couple. Decide on an amount where each person can spend without having to “check in” with the other.
Read my blog, ProfilePerspectives.com/sharedsavings, for an in-depth discussion of the pros and cons of maintaining a shared savings account.
Communicate!
As with any other issue in marriage, open and honest communication is the key to finding financial harmony. Couples who make time to discuss money issues regularly usually achieve a financial consensus.
Douglas Goldstein, CFP®, is the director of Profile Investment Services, Ltd. www.profile-financial.com. He is a licensed financial professional both in the U.S. and Israel. Call (02) 624-2788 for a consultation about handling your U.S. investments from Israel. Securities offered through Portfolio Resources Group, Inc. Member FINRA, SIPC, MSRB, FSI. The opinions expressed are those of the author and not those of Portfolio Resources Group, Inc. or its affiliates. Neither PRG nor its affiliates give tax or legal advice.
Why Gender Bias is a Good Thing in Financial Planning
By Douglas Goldstein, CFP® - helping olim handle U.S., IRA, investment, and brokerage accounts from Israel
One area where gender bias isn’t discussed enough is in financial planning. Financial planning for women must be different than for men.
What do women need to know when planning their financial future?
Women work fewer years than men
Even though men are more involved with domestic duties than in previous generations, typically women take time off after childbirth more often than men take paternity leave. When children are young, mothers are more likely than fathers to work part-time or to stop working entirely for a few years.
Women’s pension savings tend to be smaller than men’s, due to fewer and shorter work years. Compound this with the difficulty of advancing in careers due to working part-time or non-consistently, and the result is that many women have less money saved than their male colleagues.
Women live longer
Statistically, women tend to live longer than men, meaning they face more years of needing to support themselves after retirement.
I often see widowed women who are financially illiterate because their doting husbands handled the finances. Unfortunately, this means that these widows are helpless when their husbands pass away, and may not even know what assets they have at their disposal or what to do with them.
Take the reins
If you are working, or even if you are a stay-at-home-mom, make sure to put some money aside into savings. Be involved in your family’s financial decisions, rather than leaving it all up to your spouse. Financial communication and knowledge are essential to a good marriage.
Although gender equality has come a long way, I have found that women, especially elderly women, often have taken a backseat in handling their finances. If you’re nervous about managing your money, call my office (02-624-2788) to find out what options are available to you.
To learn more about financial equality for women, check out the video at www.Profile-Financial.com/women.
Douglas Goldstein, CFP®, is the director of Profile Investment Services, Ltd. www.profile-financial.com. He is a licensed financial professional both in the U.S. and Israel. Call (02) 624-2788 for a consultation about handling your U.S. investments from Israel. Securities offered through Portfolio Resources Group, Inc. Member FINRA, SIPC, MSRB, FSI. The opinions expressed are those of the author and not those of Portfolio Resources Group, Inc. or its affiliates. Neither PRG nor its affiliates give tax or legal advice.
By Douglas Goldstein, CFP®
Regardless of the more modern way people look at gender, there are significant differences in how men and women should invest their money.
Here’s why:
Women’s pensions tend to be smaller
Women’s pension payouts tend to be lower than men’s payouts, because most women work fewer hours and have lower salaries than their male counterparts. Even though “paternity leave” is becoming more common, most women still take additional non-paid time after having a baby. And, when they return to work, they may return to a part-time position. All this means a lower salary, and a proportionately lower contribution to a pension fund.
Women live longer than men
In Israel, the average lifespan of a man is 81 years, while a woman’s life expectancy is 84. In the United States, average life expectancy for a man is 76 and for a woman 81. As women generally retire earlier than men and live longer, this means a lengthier retirement and more bills. Furthermore, if a pension doesn’t increase with inflation, then the real value of the pension may not be the same towards the end of retirement as during the beginning of retirement.
Essentially, this means that women have fewer resources to cover a longer time period. Since women tend to outlive their spouses, they need to master enough financial skills so they can take care of themselves, and need to be even more careful than men about financial planning. If nothing else, women need to be sure that regular savings are an integral part of their monthly budget during their working years.
Start planning for retirement now
If you have not yet started planning for retirement, call your financial advisor today and start working on a plan. If you are a woman and have any questions about personal finance, send me an email at: doug@profile-financial.com. If you are a man, give this article to the women (spouse, mother, daughter) in your life to read.
Douglas Goldstein, CFP®, is the director of Profile Investment Services, Ltd. www.profile-financial.com. He is a licensed financial professional both in the U.S, and Israel. Call (02) 624-2788 for a consultation about handling your U.S. investments from Israel. Securities offered through Portfolio Resources Group, Inc., Member FINRA, SIPC, MSRB, FSI. The opinions expressed are those of the author and not those of Portfolio Resources Group, Inc. or its affiliates.